2009, for me at least, was a time of change. Between finally deciding to be more active in getting myself out there on social networks (and the resulting increase in Twitter usage), to personal tragedy, to a shift in how I choose to treat my thoughts, to professional advancement, to finding love, I feel quite reinvented. Well, maybe reinvented isn’t the right word, as much as decluttered. There have been a lot of habits and patterns that have stuck around for whatever reason, consciously and subconsciously. Learning to look at them and let go of the ones that keep distance from the happiness that exists inside has been transformational.
It’s so important to be patient with yourself, especially during challenging times. No growth comes quickly, no matter how much one may want to. From getting your business online to stopping toxic behavior in your own life, things happen at their own pace, all the time.
So, here’s some of the things I’ve learned, in SEO-friendly bullet-point fashion!
- The world is on your side, and waits patiently for you to make room in your life for awesomeness.
- Just because you’ve always done something, doesn’t mean you should keep doing it one moment further.
- Not everything need be treated heavy-handedly or with Importance. In fact, the most important things in life thrive best when treated lightly. In other words, Hold On Loosely.
- It’s not the situation that makes our lives a certain way, it’s our relationship to a situation, which we can always control.
- Love is always better. And it’s freakin awesome.
On occasion on this blog, I’ve posted lifehack-style things that I’ve learned, or resolutions I’m looking at, in the hopes that you may find something valuable from them to look at in your own life (see: Jeremy’s Rules For A Better Life, My Resolutions for 2009). I know that many of the people who read this blog are also people who interact with me outside of it, be you friends, twitter buddies, fellow bloggers. My resolution for you is: connect.
Connect wherever you can, with whoever you can. Don’t be afraid of rejection. Everyone is afraid of rejection, but nobody things other people are similarly afraid. Say hi, send a twitter message, go up to a girl (or a boy) at a party, email that friend from high school, accept rather than ignore that facebook request. Connection is the key to feeling love. I hope that 2010 brings a fuller sense of connection to everyone reading this.
If you’d like to connect with me outside of here, you will find links to me on the various networks on the top-right-hand-corner.
I have about six different blog posts half-written on all different subjects (including the failure of classical music to catch on with many of today’s music fan, something about the economy, and other goodness) but partially inspired by Chris Brogan’s “Things not to do in 2009” and partially due to the typical end-of-year reflection and thinking about the future, I wrote some resolutions for myself in my personal journal.
Upon thinking about it and discussing with a few folks, I present them here, unabridged, with the thought that some of you may find a few of them useful to yourselves.
Jeremy’s Resolutions for 2009
- Collaborate more, professionally and personally. Engage others and allow myself to be engaged with.
- Trust, share and value my emotions during the course of every day.
- Spend more time with friends in person (especially if travel is necessary), reconnect with peripheral people.
- Treat myself and the world around me with more love and respect.
- Go after what I want without letting fear stop me. Say yes more than I say no.
- More precisely define my passions, figure out how to make them more core to my day-to-day existence.
Your feedback, additions, thoughts are very welcome.
Came across this in my Documents folder.
- I am the only one who ultimately controls my emotions and situation, and the only person whose habits I can change. Trying to change someone else’s habits is fruitless and frustrating.
- I am entitled to feel whatever I feel whenever I feel it, and to love and be loved in return. Anything else is selling myself short.
- I am entitled to pay attention to my own needs. This does not have to lead to a fight, and does not invalidate my needs if It does.
- I am entitled to fulfillment, and for people to treat me well.
- There are many things that I am good at, and I should feel proud of them.
- I don’t have to feel trapped by life. When I do, I can change my responses to behavior in order to not feel trapped.
- Identifying patterns that are destructive or no longer productive is the first step to improving my quality of life.
- Growing up is a process that is not easy, takes time and requires patience and courage. I have more of that than I think I do.
See Also: Jeremy’s Rules For A Better Life
From TedTalks, the best lecture series on the planet. Why Are We Happy? Or Not? – Daniel Gilbert
Bestselling author of Stumbling on Happiness, Daniel Gilbert describes some surprising information about your happiness.Sounds like we all need to listen to Sinead after all.
I know I know, you haven’t heard from me lately. I have been posting at some of my other blogs, namely Cute Girls in Stupid Sunglasses as well as my DJ setlist site.
Here’s some stuff to keep you amused:
Until next time, see you on the internets!